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How to help a person in a state of depression, make him feel that he is not alone, that you understand him? The psychiatrist talks about the words that are important to hear for a person who is suffering.
1. «Just know: I’m always there»
Nipa ṣiṣe ni gbangba pe o ti ṣetan lati wa nibẹ ni eyikeyi ipo, o ti n pese atilẹyin tẹlẹ. Eniyan ti o ni ijiya mọ bi o ti jẹ irora, ati nigba miiran ẹru fun awọn miiran, ipo rẹ, o bẹrẹ lati pa ararẹ mọ kuro lọdọ awọn eniyan. Awọn ọrọ rẹ yoo jẹ ki o lero pe o dinku nikan ati ki o ya sọtọ.
You can even say nothing — just be there, listen, or just be silent together. Your presence will help a person overcome the internal blockade, will make him feel: he is still loved and accepted.
2. «What can I do to help you?»
Awọn eniyan ti o ni iriri ibajẹ ọpọlọ nigbagbogbo ko lagbara lati dahun ibeere yii. Sibẹsibẹ, awọn ọrọ rẹ yoo ran ẹnikan ti o ni akoko ti o nira lati gbọ ti ararẹ, si awọn ifẹ rẹ.
Even if they answer you that you don’t need anything, believe me — it was very important to hear this question. And if a person decides to tell and you listen to him, it will be a huge help for him.
3. “I really like about you…”
Ni awọn akoko ti ibanujẹ, a padanu igbẹkẹle ara ẹni ati nigbagbogbo ibọwọ fun ara ẹni. Ati pe ti o ba ṣe iyìn, tọka si awọn ẹgbẹ ti o bori ati awọn agbara: itọwo elege, akiyesi ati inu-rere, awọn ẹya ti irisi, eyi yoo ran ọ lọwọ lati bẹrẹ itọju ararẹ pẹlu akiyesi ati ifẹ diẹ sii.
4. «Yes, I also think it’s hard and unfair»
Awọn iriri ti o jinlẹ jẹ ki o pada ni ọpọlọ pada si awọn iṣẹlẹ ti o fa wọn leralera, ati pe agbegbe bẹrẹ lati ni imọlara pe o n sọ asọtẹlẹ ati pe o to akoko lati fa ararẹ papọ.
Ni ipo ti ibanujẹ, awọn eniyan di ifarabalẹ, ati pe ki interlocutor le gbẹkẹle ọ, o ṣe pataki lati jẹ ki o han gbangba pe o pin awọn ẹdun rẹ. O jẹwọ pe a ti ṣe si i ni aiṣododo ati awọn ipo ti o n dojukọ si nira. Bí ó bá nímọ̀lára pé a tẹ́wọ́ gba ìmọ̀lára kíkorò rẹ̀, tí a kò sì tẹ́wọ́ gbà á, ó ṣeé ṣe kí ó rí okun láti tẹ̀ síwájú.
5. «I’ll help you find your way out»
Ti o ba ri eniyan ti o nbọ sinu ibanujẹ ti o jinlẹ, ohun ti o dara julọ ti o le ṣe ni iranlọwọ fun wọn lati gba atilẹyin ọjọgbọn.
Fun ọpọlọpọ awọn eniyan ti ko ti ni iriri itọju ailera tẹlẹ, ireti ti lilọ si ọdọ alamọja kan jẹ ohun ti o lewu. O le kan si oniwosan ọpọlọ funrararẹ ki o pe olufẹ kan lati ba a lọ si ipinnu lati pade akọkọ. Ni ipo ti ibanujẹ, nigbagbogbo ko si agbara lati yipada si iranlọwọ ita, ati pe atilẹyin rẹ yoo ṣe pataki.
6. “I understand you: it happened to me too”
Ti iwọ tabi ẹnikan ti o sunmọ ọ ti lọ nipasẹ iru awọn ipadabọ kanna ni igbesi aye, sọ fun wa nipa rẹ. Ṣiṣii rẹ yoo ran eniyan lọwọ lati di atasọ diẹ sii.
Bí ó ṣe ń sọ̀rọ̀ lọ́fẹ̀ẹ́ sí i nípa ohun tí ó ń dá òun lóró, ní mímọ̀ pé àwọn ọ̀rọ̀ náà ń sọ̀rọ̀, bẹ́ẹ̀ náà ni àìnírànlọ́wọ́ àti ìdánìkanwà yóò ṣe túbọ̀ ń dín kù. Ati ni kẹrẹkẹrẹ ipo naa yoo bẹrẹ lati ni akiyesi kii ṣe ainireti bẹ.
Nipa onkọwe: Gene Kim jẹ olukọ ọjọgbọn ti psychiatry ni Ile-ẹkọ giga George Washington.