Awọn akoonu
Finding a partner is not an easy task. Starting to get close to someone, it is important to understand what kind of person this is, whether you are suitable for each other. By paying attention to your feelings, you can make your meetings as effective as possible and gather more of the information you need.
Having studied all the possibilities that dating applications provide us with, we are somewhat fed up. Yes, now our social circle is much wider than before. And if the Friday date didn’t work out, we can find another potential interlocutor within a radius of a kilometer in three minutes by simply swiping our finger across the screen.
It’s great, but sometimes it feels like the search for someone with whom we would like to share our life has become a lot like going to the supermarket. We seem to be running between the shelves, trying not to miss a single offer for a promotion. However, does this make us happy?
Dating apps give us the illusion of intimacy. Communicating online, looking at photos, reading information in the profile, we think that we already know quite well the person with whom the “swipe to the right” brought us together today. But is it?
Can we really get to know a person by having a couple of coffees with them? Is this enough to trust him in every sense, including the most intimate? Mindfulness is good even in an area traditionally given power over the senses. And it’s not at all about manipulative techniques that should keep the partner’s interest!
Even in the era of multitasking and high speeds, we must take care of ourselves and our feelings. Here are some tips to make dating potential partners more conscious. By following them, you will not allow yourself to be drawn into an unwanted relationship and will be able to get to know the person whose image is currently built on messages, photos and a short list of interests in the profile much better.
1. Beere awọn ibeere
You have the right to be curious and interested in the life of a potential partner. Otherwise, how will you understand whether he is suitable for living together, is it worth maintaining a relationship with him at all? There is no other way to know whether he wants children or not, is set to monogamy or prefers casual relationships.
You have the right to know this, because it is about your life. Anyone who is offended by this or prefers not to answer questions has every chance of being the hero of a novel that is not yours.
2. Set reasonable boundaries
If you don’t like chatting and prefer a phone conversation, tell the person you’re talking to. If you’re not ready to go to bed after your first, third, or even tenth date, don’t be silent about it. If you do not want to rent an apartment with someone you have known for two weeks, this can be said.
Someone who really likes you will agree to a pace that is comfortable for both of you. And the excessive perseverance of the interlocutor or partner should alert you.
3. Ma yara
When meeting someone you really like, it’s hard not to jump into the maelstrom of feelings. Especially if there is “real chemistry” between you.
However, first dates that do not end in bed play a very important role: they help you get to know each other and see if you can be together for a long time. In addition, too fast rapprochement makes people lose themselves and forget about their own interests. And if there are other worries in your life, you run the risk of facing a wave of accumulated bills, tasks and everyday affairs later.
Healthy and fulfilling relationships are available only to those who do not lose themselves or self-esteem in contact with another.
4. Don’t Forget About Reflection
Take the time to reflect on who you find on dating apps. Do any of them look like a person who could share the future with you? Do they have qualities that you like? Do you notice anything in their behavior that worries you?
Arrange a “minute of silence” to hear the voice of your own intuition. She definitely won’t let you down.
5. Don’t pause your life
Dating is not the goal and not the only meaning of your life, they are only a part of it, albeit a very exciting one. Don’t focus on constantly looking for new “matches”. If necessary, install an application on your phone that limits your activity in this area.
Look for new options from time to time, but do not devote all your days and nights to it. You have your own interests and hobbies, and you should not forget about them.