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Anne-Laure Benattar, psycho-body therapist, receives children, adolescents and adults in his practice “L’Espace Thérapie Zen”. www.therapie-zen.fr.
Anne-Laure Benattar, psycho-body therapist, receives Tom today. He is accompanied by his mother. For the past few months, this little six-year-old boy has been showing signs of stress, aggression and significant “angry” reactivity, whatever the subject, especially with his family. Story of a session …
Tom, 6 years old, angry little boy …
Anne-Laure Benattar: Can you tell me since when you’ve been feeling this stress or anger?
Tom : I do not know ! Maybe since our cat died? I liked him a lot… but I don’t think that’s what bothers me.
A.-LB: Yes, it’s always sad to lose a pet that you love deeply… If that’s not what annoys you, is there something else that makes you angry or sad? ?
Tom : Yes… the separation of my parents for two years makes me really sad.
A.-L. B : Oh I see ! So I have an idea for you. If you want, we’ll play with emotions. You can close your eyes and tell me where that anger or sadness is in your body.
Tom : Yes, I want us to play! My anger is in my lung.
A.-LB: What shape does it have? What color ? Is it hard or soft? Does it move?
Tom : It’s a square, very very big, black, which hurts, which is as hard as metal, and which is all blocked …
A.-L. B. Alright I see, it’s boring! Can you try to change it color, shape? To make it move, to make it softer?
Tom : Yes, I’m trying… Ah there it is, it’s a blue circle now… a little soft, but which does not move…
A.-LB: Maybe he’s still a bit fat? If you reduce it, can you make it move?
Tom : Ah yes, it is now smaller this round, and it moves on its own.
A.-LB: So, if you want, you can grab it with your hand, either directly in your lung, or by mouth, as you prefer, and throw it away or put it in the trash …
Tom : That’s it, I grabbed it in my lung and throw it in the trash, it’s small now. I feel much lighter!
A.- L. B. : And if now you think about your parents’ separation, how do you feel?
Tom : JI feel better, very light, it’s a thing of the past, it hurts a bit anyway, but today, we’re happier like that. It’s weird, my anger is gone and my sadness is gone too! It’s awesome, thank you!
Decryption ti igba
Personifying emotions, as Anne-Laure Benattar does during this session, is an exercise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. This allows Tom to materialize his emotion, to make it evolve by modifying the different aspects it takes (color, shape, size, etc.) and then release it.
Help a child to let go of his anger with “active listening”
Listening to the emotions expressed and those that sometimes show themselves through symptoms, nightmares or crises, is a good way to update them, and above all, to welcome them with kindness.
One anger can hide another …
Often times, anger hides another emotion, such as sadness or fear. This hidden emotion can refer to older events revived by a recent event. In this session, Tom’s anger appeared at the death of his little cat, a mourning which he managed to make and which sent him back to another mourning, that of the separation from his parents, which still makes him sad. Mourning for which he may not have been able to release his emotions, perhaps to protect his parents.
If the problem persists, it may happen that this anger still needs to be heard or digested. Give your child the digestion time he needs, and possibly the support of a professional may be necessary to reach a resolution of this situation.