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How can a psychologist change the attachment style we grew up with? How can mental exhaustion be avoided? How to find a common language with both growing children and elderly parents? The answers to these and other questions can be found in the books from our new selection.
«The Sandwich Generation»
Svetlana Komissaruk, Bombay
“Among publications about relations between adults and children, there are few that present several generations at once, with their dissimilar attitudes and outlooks on life,” says psychologist Olga Shaveko. — The book of the social psychologist and group trainer Svetlana Komissaruk is good for just such a voluminous vision.
She explains how readers from the Sandwich generation (those who are now 45–60 years old) can understand older parents, negotiate with younger ones, and at the same time not forget about themselves. Generations are vividly described from different angles: in terms of attachment theory, motivation, guilt, perfectionism, and the impostor syndrome. But in addition to theoretical information, the book includes sketches from life and accessible techniques that will help you forgive your parents, stop being afraid for your children and learn to trust them, accept each other without ignoring or devaluing.
I was impressed by the author’s special technique “#invitation to experiment” – this is a rubric that describes various studies. They allow the reader to stop and reflect on what they have read. For example, an experiment by psychologist Carol Dweck does a great job of clarifying the difference between effective praise and nonsensical praise. And the test from the chapter «Two Worlds, Two Childhoods» will help determine whether you and your parents belong to an individualist or collectivist culture. A good way to see yourself or a familiar situation from an unexpected side.
The book will be useful not only to representatives of the «sandwich» generation, but also to their grown-up children. She exposes vulnerable areas in relationships with parents, grandparents and suggests how to change communication or simply take into account the experience of elders. Different aspects of everyday life are revealed in a new way and form a complete picture — a stained glass window is obtained, which finally becomes stereoscopic.
«Attachment in Psychotherapy»
Davis J. Wallin, Science World
The attachment style that we develop in early childhood is reflected throughout our lives. But this influence is not total: the model of insecure attachment can change under the influence of new experience — for example, a qualitatively different relationship between the patient and the therapist. Clinical psychologist David J. Wallin shows how therapists can benefit from advances in the field of attachment research.
«Self»
Renata Daniel, Cogito Center
The self is not only the center of a person’s mental and spiritual life, but the personality itself in all its integrity, in the unity of the conscious and the unconscious. This paradox is difficult to comprehend logically. And that is why the Jungian analyst Renata Daniel, exploring the self, turns to images from fairy tales, plots from films and life. It’s an exciting journey into yourself.
«Sane»
Daria Varlamova, Alpina Publisher
Keep a diary of emotions, distribute forces to avoid mental exhaustion; to understand non-constructive attitudes… The book-workshop by Darya Varlamova contains the tools that helped Darya herself to live productively with bipolar disorder. They are also useful for attention deficit and mood swings.
«Toxic People»
Shahida Arabi, Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
Shahida Arabi has been researching the topic of psychological abuse for many years. She explains how to recognize a manipulator (as well as a narcissist and a psychopath) and get out of a traumatic relationship with the least loss. Behavioral therapy tasks and exercises will help you build healthy personal boundaries and begin to trust yourself.
«The Science of Loving a Child»
Edited by Zhanna Glozman, Meaning
Employees of the Research Center for Child Neuropsychology named after A. Luria tell parents how to solve problems that arise as the child grows up, be it (dis)obedience, lies, increased anxiety or school lessons. The articles contain many specific situations from life.
«Fundamentals of Existential Analysis»
Alfried Lenglet, Peter
Time is one of the prerequisites for a fulfilled life. But there are others: space, fair treatment, and respectful attention… This reference guide describes how the method of existential analysis works and how it differs from other areas of therapy.
“Making time for someone means increasing their value, because a person’s time is always the time of his life … Taking time for yourself means nurturing relationships with yourself.”