Awọn ọna 6 lati ye awọn isinmi-isinmi naa Nigbati O ko ba ni Wahala Pẹlu Awọn obi Alabaṣepọ Rẹ

Ṣe o ronu nipa ibẹwo ti awọn obi alabaṣepọ rẹ pẹlu iberu? Njẹ awọn isinmi yoo bajẹ lẹẹkansi? Si iwọn nla o da lori rẹ. Eyi ni diẹ ninu awọn imọran lati ọdọ awọn oniwosan idile.

1. Ṣe ileri fun ara rẹ pe iwọ yoo gbiyanju lati mu ibasepọ dara sii.

It is not necessary to promise yourself something only on the eve of the New Year. Together with your life partner, you have chosen his parents, and you will not get rid of them, except perhaps after a divorce. Try not to complain every time you visit your mother-in-law or mother-in-law, but get along with them during this year. You have many years ahead of you, so it doesn’t have to be perfect the first time. Start with a small step, like «I won’t mention Uncle Husband’s drinking this year.» Over time, you will find that communicating with your spouse’s parents is no longer so burdensome for you. ― Aaron Anderson, family therapist.

2. Sọrọ ni otitọ pẹlu alabaṣepọ rẹ tẹlẹ

Maṣe pa awọn ibẹru ati aibalẹ rẹ mọ ni ikọkọ! Sọ fun ọkọ iyawo rẹ nipa bi o ṣe ro pe ipade pẹlu awọn obi yoo lọ. Sugbon ma ko soro nipa rẹ odi iwa si wọn. Sọ ohun ti o n yọ ọ lẹnu ki o beere fun iranlọwọ. Ṣe apejuwe gangan ohun ti o nilo. Fun apẹẹrẹ, beere lọwọ rẹ lati ṣe atilẹyin diẹ sii tabi ni ipa diẹ sii ni mimurasilẹ fun ayẹyẹ idile kan. Ronu nipasẹ ibaraẹnisọrọ yii ki o ṣe itupalẹ awọn ifiyesi rẹ. ― Marnie Fuerman, oniwosan idile.

3. Tọju ararẹ

Ọkan ninu awọn idi akọkọ ti a padanu sũru pẹlu awọn alejo ni iwulo lati jẹ ki wọn ṣe ere. Nígbà ìpàdé pẹ̀lú àwọn ọ̀rẹ́ tàbí, ní pàtàkì, àwọn mọ̀lẹ́bí, ẹnì kan sábà máa ń kọbi ara sí ìfẹ́-ọkàn ara rẹ̀ nítorí ìtùnú ẹlòmíràn. Bi abajade, a kan gbagbe nipa ara wa. Ati pe lakoko ti o le dabi pe ko si akoko lati ṣe abojuto ararẹ, eyi ni ọna ti o dara julọ lati koju wahala ati ayabo ti aaye ti ara ẹni.

Ṣe abojuto ilera rẹ, mu iwe isinmi, lọ si ibusun ni kutukutu, ka ibi idakẹjẹ. Tẹtisi ara rẹ ki o gbiyanju lati san ifojusi diẹ sii si awọn aini rẹ. ― Alisha Clark, onimọ-jinlẹ.

4. Ẹgbẹ pẹlu alabaṣepọ kan

In a marriage, there are often tensions with your spouse’s parents, and sometimes you begin to doubt whose side he is on. Both of you have been members of another family for a long time, with your own holiday traditions and customs. The struggle for influence between the partner’s parents and his other half can flare up in earnest, because both «parties» want to attract him to them during the holidays. Teaming up with a partner is one way to end this fight. Then you will support each other, not your parents.

But you have to stand firm and stand up for your partner. This approach may seem harsh, but slowly the parents will adapt to the situation and understand that the joint decision of the spouses is always at the forefront. Remember which side you are on. You are first a husband, and only then — a son or daughter. ― Danielle Kepler, psychotherapist.

5. Kó ìgboyà rẹ jọ ṣáájú ìpàdé

Before meeting your partner’s parents, do one mental exercise. Imagine that you are wearing special armor that protects against any negative energy. Say to yourself: «I am safe and protected, I am safe.» On the spot, be as polite and charming as possible. Keep a positive attitude and act at ease. There is no point in wasting precious time regretting things you cannot control. ― Becky Whetstone, family therapist.

6. Ranti: O jẹ Igba diẹ

Ni awọn isinmi, ṣiṣan ti awọn apejọ idile ati awọn ibẹwo ko gbẹ. Awọn isinmi yoo pari, iwọ yoo pada si ile ati ki o ni anfani lati gbagbe nipa gbogbo awọn airọrun. Ko si ye lati gbe lori odi: eyi yoo ṣe afikun si awọn iṣoro nikan ati pe o le di idi fun awọn ariyanjiyan pẹlu alabaṣepọ kan. Ma ṣe jẹ ki awọn obi oko tabi aya rẹ ba aye rẹ jẹ ki o si ni ipa lori ibasepọ rẹ. ― Aaron Anderson, oniwosan idile.