Bii o ṣe le tọju awọn ọrẹbinrin nigbati o wa ni awọn ipo oriṣiriṣi ti igbesi aye

Igbesi aye agbalagba kun fun awọn iyipada: gbigbe, ikẹkọ, iṣẹ, igbeyawo, nini awọn ọmọde. A ni akoko ti o dinku ati dinku fun awọn ọrẹ, awọn ibatan miiran fa ifojusi si ara wa. Ati pe o dabi pe ni bayi o wa diẹ ninu wọpọ pẹlu awọn ọrẹ igba ewe.

Ko rọrun lati duro ni ibatan kanna nigbati o ba ni awọn ipo igbesi aye oriṣiriṣi, ṣugbọn eyi ko tumọ si pe ọrẹ atijọ ti pari. Ti iwọ ati awọn ọrẹ rẹ ba wa "lori awọn aye oriṣiriṣi", ṣe akiyesi awọn imọran wọnyi.

1. Ranti idi ti o fi sunmọ

Awọn iranti ti bi a ṣe bi ọrẹ ni ọna ti o dara julọ lati pẹ. Soro nipa awọn ìrìn ti o ti ni iriri, ranti nikan awọn awada ti o loye. Ti o ba jinna ni bayi ati pe o ko le rii ararẹ nigbagbogbo bi iṣaaju, eyi yoo mu ọ sunmọ. Gba akoko lati ṣe iranti ati rẹrin awọn itan atijọ.

2. Ṣẹda titun ìrántí

O dun lati ranti ohun ti o ti kọja, ṣugbọn ọrẹ yoo rọ laisi awọn iṣẹlẹ tuntun ati awọn iwunilori. Gbiyanju lati ṣe ohun kan papọ ti o ko ṣe tẹlẹ. Ni akoko nla ati ni akoko kanna wa kini tuntun ni igbesi aye ọrẹ kan. Ni bayi aibikita ko wa pẹlu irọrun kanna bi ni ọdọ, nitorinaa ṣeto awọn ipade ki wọn ko ba bori pẹlu iṣowo miiran ati awọn adehun.

Joint activities help strengthen friendships, but this is not enough. It is important to arrange heart-to-heart conversations — they bring people together. Social networks help to keep in touch, but we rarely communicate live. And no online correspondence will replace a real heart-to-heart conversation.

It doesn’t matter if you meet in person or on the phone, talk about what’s going on in your life, what worries you. Be open and sincere. Talk about your problems, share successes and hopes for the future. Be real — this will help you and your friend understand each other better.

3. Da awọn ifilelẹ lọ

Aini akoko fun ibaraẹnisọrọ kii ṣe iṣoro nikan. Ọrẹ ni ọpọlọpọ awọn idiwọ nigbati o ko baramu ni awọn ipele igbesi aye. Ọrẹ kan n ṣiṣẹ pẹlu awọn ọmọde, ekeji lọ si awọn irin-ajo iṣowo. Ipo ohun elo tun le yatọ, eyi nfi awọn ihamọ si isinmi apapọ.

Be realistic and don’t expect the impossible from your friends and dates. Then it will be easier to find compromises — for example, to choose a less expensive type of leisure. Being aware of your limitations will help you avoid misunderstandings and conflicts: you turn down an invitation to dinner because your finances are tight, and your friend thinks you don’t want to see her. Your initiative will also be useful — offer ideas for meetings, but try to take into account the circumstances of your friends. They will appreciate your attention and care.

4. Ṣetan fun awọn iyanilẹnu

A ṣọ lati ro fun elomiran. A titẹnumọ mọ bi ọrẹ kan yoo ṣe si ipo kan pato. Ṣugbọn awọn ero inu wa nigbagbogbo jẹ aṣiṣe. Ifojusi dabaru pẹlu lohun awọn iṣoro ati alienates.

Let’s say a friend constantly talks about children, but you are not interested in talking about diapers and queues for kindergarten. You are worried — a friend will be upset if the conversation is moved to another topic. May be. But the opposite is also possible — she will be happy to discuss your recent vacation and forget about household chores for a minute. So do not try to decide for your friends, check your assumptions.

5. Yẹra fun Idije

Láti ìgbà dé ìgbà a máa ń fi ara wa wé àwọn ọ̀rẹ́ wa. Sugbon nigba ti a ba ni orisirisi awọn aye, o jẹ soro lati ni oye ti o ti lọ niwaju. Ti o ba ni awọn ayo igbesi aye oriṣiriṣi, agbegbe yoo wa nibiti iwọ yoo ṣubu lẹhin. Ilara jẹ rilara ti ko dun, ṣugbọn o jẹ iṣesi deede.

However, constant «competition» is not good for friendship and devalues ​​your achievements. Do not focus on what you are behind your friends in, and do not get carried away with self-criticism. Remember, everyone has ups and downs and you don’t know what the other person is going through.

6. Yi irisi rẹ pada

Now you are at different stages of life — try to take advantage of this situation. Use the experience of your girlfriends to make decisions in your life. Maybe you want to start living with a man, get married, accept a promotion at work, or have a baby. Look at a friend who already has it. This will help you evaluate future prospects and understand how ready you are for such changes.

7. Gba awọn ọrẹbinrin tuntun

It makes sense that as our lives change, so do our friends. You try to weave old girlfriends into new life circumstances and keep friendships — that’s wonderful. But why not expand your social circle?

Ṣe ibasọrọ pẹlu awọn eniyan ti o sunmọ ọ ni awọn iwulo ati awọn ipo: awọn ẹlẹgbẹ iṣẹ, awọn iya ọdọ, awọn obinrin ti ko ni iyawo. Pẹlu wọn, o le jiroro lori awọn ọran ti o ni ibatan si ipo rẹ nikan. Eyi yoo gba titẹ awọn ọrẹbinrin atijọ ti o lọ nipasẹ awọn ipo igbesi aye miiran.

Ko rọrun lati tọju ọrẹ nigbati igbesi aye rẹ yatọ. Ṣugbọn ti o ni idi ti ore, eyi ti, ọpẹ si sũru ati oye pelu owo, na fun opolopo odun, jẹ paapa niyelori.