Awọn akoonu
Is it worth it to make an effort to equip a temporary home? Is it necessary to spend resources on creating comfort “here and now”, when we know that the situation will change after some time? Perhaps the ability and desire to create comfort for ourselves, regardless of the temporality of the situation, has a positive effect on our state — both emotional and physical.
When moving to a rented apartment, Marina was indignant: the faucet was dripping, the curtains were “grandmother’s”, and the bed stood so that the morning light fell directly on the pillow and did not let her sleep. “But this is temporary! — she objected to the words that everything can be fixed. “This is not my apartment, I’m here for a short time!” The first lease agreement was drawn up, as is usually the case, immediately for a year. Ten years have passed. She still lives in that apartment.
Ni wiwa iduroṣinṣin, a maa n padanu awọn akoko pataki ti o le yi igbesi aye wa pada fun didara loni, mu itunu diẹ sii si igbesi aye, eyiti ni ipari yoo ni ipa rere lori iṣesi wa ati, o ṣee ṣe, alafia.
Awọn ẹlẹsin Buddhists sọrọ nipa aibikita ti igbesi aye. Heraclitus ti wa ni ka pẹlu awọn ọrọ ti ohun gbogbo nṣàn, ohun gbogbo ayipada. Tá a bá ń wo nǹkan sẹ́yìn, ẹnì kọ̀ọ̀kan wa lè jẹ́rìí sí òtítọ́ yìí. Ṣugbọn eyi ha tumọsi pe igba diẹ ko tọsi awọn akitiyan wa, ko ha yẹ lati jẹ ki o ni irọrun, rọrun bi? Èé ṣe tí àkókò kúkúrú nínú ìgbésí ayé wa kò fi níye lórí ju àkókò gígùn rẹ̀ lọ?
It seems that many are simply not used to taking care of themselves here and now. Right today, afford the best — not the most expensive, but the most convenient, not the most fashionable, but the most useful, the right one for your psychological and physical comfort. Perhaps we are lazy, and we mask it with excuses and rational thoughts about wasting resources on the temporary.
Ṣugbọn ṣe itunu ni gbogbo akoko kan ko ṣe pataki bi? Nigba miiran o gba awọn igbesẹ ti o rọrun diẹ lati mu ipo naa dara. Nitoribẹẹ, ko ṣe oye lati nawo owo pupọ ni isọdọtun ti iyẹwu iyalo kan. Ṣugbọn lati ṣatunṣe faucet ti a lo lojoojumọ ni lati jẹ ki o dara fun ara wa.
"O ko yẹ ki o lọ jinna ki o ronu nikan nipa awọn itan-akọọlẹ kan" nigbamii"
Gurgen Khachaturian, psychotherapist
Itan-akọọlẹ ti Marina, ni irisi eyiti o ṣe apejuwe rẹ nibi, jẹ pẹlu awọn fẹlẹfẹlẹ ọpọlọ meji ti o jẹ ihuwasi pupọ ti akoko wa. Ohun akọkọ ni aarun igbesi aye ti o sun siwaju: “Bayi a yoo ṣiṣẹ ni iyara ti o yara, ṣafipamọ fun ọkọ ayọkẹlẹ kan, iyẹwu kan, ati pe lẹhinna nikan ni a yoo gbe, rin irin-ajo, ṣẹda itunu fun ara wa.”
Awọn keji jẹ idurosinsin ati ni ọpọlọpọ awọn ọna awọn ilana Soviet, awọn ilana ninu eyiti ninu igbesi aye ti o wa lọwọlọwọ, nibi ati bayi, ko si aaye fun itunu, ṣugbọn o wa nkankan bi ijiya, ijiya. Ati pe aisi ifẹ lati ṣe idoko-owo ni alafia rẹ lọwọlọwọ ati iṣesi ti o dara nitori iberu inu pe ọla owo yii le ma jẹ mọ.
Nitorinaa, gbogbo wa, nitorinaa, yẹ ki o gbe nihin ati ni bayi, ṣugbọn pẹlu iwo kan ni iwaju. O ko le ṣe idoko-owo gbogbo awọn orisun rẹ nikan ni alafia lọwọlọwọ, ati pe oye ti o wọpọ ni imọran pe ifiṣura fun ọjọ iwaju gbọdọ tun fi silẹ. Ni apa keji, lilọ jina pupọ ati ironu nikan nipa diẹ ninu awọn itan-akọọlẹ “nigbamii”, gbigbagbe nipa akoko bayi, ko tun tọ si. Jubẹlọ, ko si ẹniti o mọ ohun ti ojo iwaju yoo jẹ bi.
"O ṣe pataki lati ni oye boya a fun ara wa ni ẹtọ si aaye yii tabi gbe, n gbiyanju lati ma gba aaye pupọ"
Anastasia Gurneva, olutọju-ara gestalt
Ti eyi ba jẹ ijumọsọrọ inu ọkan, Emi yoo ṣalaye awọn aaye diẹ.
- Bawo ni awọn ilọsiwaju ile n lọ? Ṣe wọn ṣe lati ṣe abojuto ile tabi ara wọn? Ti o ba jẹ nipa ara rẹ, lẹhinna o tọsi ni pato, ati pe ti awọn ilọsiwaju ba ṣe fun ile, lẹhinna o jẹ otitọ, kilode ti idoko-owo ni ẹnikan miiran.
- Where is the border between the temporary and … what, by the way? «Forever», eternal? Does that happen at all? Does anyone have any guarantees? It happens that rented housing “overtakes” its own in terms of the number of years lived there. And if the apartment is not your own, but, say, a young man, is it worth investing in it? Is it temporary or not?
- Iwọn ti ilowosi si itunu ti aaye. Ninu osẹ jẹ itẹwọgba, ṣugbọn iṣẹṣọ ogiri kii ṣe? Fifẹ tẹ ni kia kia pẹlu asọ jẹ iwọn ti o yẹ fun abojuto itunu, ṣugbọn pipe olutọpa kii ṣe? Nibo ni aala yii wa?
- Nibo ni ẹnu-ọna ifarada fun aibalẹ? O ti wa ni mọ pe awọn aṣamubadọgba siseto sise: awon ohun ti o farapa oju ati ki o fa idamu ni ibẹrẹ ti aye ni ohun iyẹwu gba sile lati wa ni woye lori akoko. Ni gbogbogbo, eyi jẹ paapaa ilana ti o wulo. Kí ló lè lòdì sí i? mimu-pada sipo ifamọ si awọn ikunsinu rẹ, si itunu ati aibalẹ nipasẹ awọn iṣe iṣaro.
O le ma wà jinle: ṣe eniyan fun ara rẹ ni ẹtọ si aaye yii tabi gbe, n gbiyanju lati ma gba aaye pupọ, akoonu pẹlu ohun ti o ni? Ṣe o gba ara rẹ laaye lati ta ku lori awọn iyipada, lati yi aye ti o wa ni ayika rẹ pada ni ipinnu ara rẹ bi? Lilo agbara, akoko ati owo lati jẹ ki aaye naa lero bi ile, ṣiṣẹda itunu ati mimu asopọ pẹlu ibi ibugbe?
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Loni, iyẹwu Marina dabi igbadun, ati pe o ni itunu nibẹ. Láàárín ọdún mẹ́wàá yìí, ó ní ọkọ kan tó tún fóònù náà ṣe, tó yan àwọn aṣọ àgọ́ tuntun pẹ̀lú rẹ̀, tó sì tún àwọn ohun èlò ṣe. O wa ni jade wipe o ti ṣee ṣe lati na ko ki Elo owo lori o. Àmọ́ ní báyìí, wọ́n máa ń gbádùn lílo àkókò tí wọ́n ń gbé nílé, àwọn ipò tó ṣẹ̀ṣẹ̀ dé yìí sì ti fi hàn pé èyí lè ṣe pàtàkì gan-an.