Awọn ami 10 ti o ni ifaramọ pupọ ati Kini lati Ṣe Nipa rẹ

There is a fine line that separates people who are simply nice from those who are too accommodating. When you are afraid to express yourself and your opinion, you shrink internally — and your «I» also shrinks, losing hope and the ability to achieve anything.

Ti o ba jẹ alailagbara ati ifarabalẹ, ipa-ọna rẹ yoo dabi gbigbe ọkọ oju-omi kekere laisi oran ati ọkọ oju-omi, nitori aṣeyọri le ṣee ṣe nipasẹ igbiyanju mimọ nikan.

Ati irony ti o tobi julọ ni pe ti o ba fẹ lati wu gbogbo eniyan laisi iyasọtọ, igbagbogbo ni ipa idakeji. Dipo wiwa ifọwọsi lati ọdọ awọn eniyan miiran tabi ni iyemeji, o dara lati tọju ararẹ, kọ ẹkọ lati kọ agbara lati daabobo ero rẹ.

Eyi ko tumọ si pe gbogbo eniyan ni ayika jẹ aṣiṣe, ṣugbọn iwọ nikan ni o tọ. Aṣeyọri wa lẹhin ọpọlọpọ ariyanjiyan ati ariyanjiyan, o wa lati awọn imọran ti o fi ori gbarawọn nigbagbogbo ti awọn eniyan oriṣiriṣi sọ.

Eyi ni diẹ ninu awọn iwa ati awọn ihuwasi ti awọn ti o ka ara wọn si eniyan aladun lati baraẹnisọrọ, botilẹjẹpe ihuwasi wọn daba pe wọn kan ni ifaramọ pupọ ati tiraka lati wu gbogbo eniyan ni gbogbo idiyele.

1. Ififunni

O nigbagbogbo rọ awọn alaye rẹ, maṣe sọ ohun ti o ro, nitori o bẹru pe awọn ero rẹ kii yoo rii atilẹyin lati ọdọ awọn miiran. Bi abajade, o gba pẹlu awọn ti o sọ ero ti o lodi si.

Iwọ yoo ni lati kọ ẹkọ lati ni o kere ju nigbakan sọ ero rẹ ki o ṣe ni idaniloju.

2. Awọn nilo fun ibakan alakosile

Ko si bi o ti yìn ati atilẹyin, kii yoo fun ọ ni igboya ti o ko ba ni imọlara rẹ ninu inu.

O nilo lati ni oye pe ọna kan ṣoṣo lati gba nkan ni lati sọ ohun ti o fẹ. Fun awọn ibẹrẹ, fun ara rẹ.

3. Constant ìkíni si elomiran

One of the clearest indicators of insincerity, oddly enough, is that you are constantly complimenting others. If you start every conversation with compliments, it will soon backfire — you will be considered a manipulator. This is because your goal is actually really different — to get approval and support.

Ṣafipamọ awọn iyin fun awọn akoko yẹn nigbati wọn jẹ ooto.

4. awawi

Nigbati o ba bẹrẹ ṣiṣe awọn awawi, a maa n rii nigbagbogbo bi ailera.

Gba pe eniyan kii yoo gba pẹlu rẹ nigbagbogbo. Ko si iṣowo laisi awọn ijiyan ati awọn ija. O nilo lati kọ agbara lati tẹtisi ibawi, gba awọn esi ati ki o maṣe ro pe o jẹ ẹgan. Awọn eniyan kii yoo ran ọ lọwọ lati gun akaba ile-iṣẹ nitori pe wọn ṣanu fun ọ.

Kọ ẹkọ lati dagba lẹhin ibawi dipo idinku ati fifipamọ.

5. Gbigba pẹlu ohun ti o kọ inu inu

Lati wu awọn ẹlomiran, o gba paapaa nigba ti o ko gba inu inu. O ti wa ni ibugbe ju. Nitorina ko si ẹnikan ti yoo mọ ohun ti o ro ati ohun ti o jẹ. Nitorinaa, iwọ kii yoo ni anfani lati ṣe iṣiro bi eniyan kan.

Awọn eniyan aṣeyọri nigbagbogbo ko fẹ lati baamu awọn ibatan ti o wa tẹlẹ ati pe wọn ni anfani lati sọ awọn ero wọn taara. Ati awọn ti o yi wọn ka ni kiakia gba pẹlu awọn imọran titun ti a ba fi wọn han pẹlu igboya ati pẹlu idi.

6.Atunlo

Nipa dide duro ni ibi iṣẹ, o n gbiyanju lati ṣe afihan iye rẹ. Nigbagbogbo eyi nyorisi ọ bẹrẹ lati ṣe awọn iṣẹ ṣiṣe ti ko wulo.

Relax and do your part. Learn to say «no» without feeling guilty. Your “no” determines your priorities and who you are as a person.

Nikan ni ọna yii awọn eniyan yoo mọ ibiti o pari ati ibi ti wọn bẹrẹ. Titi wọn yoo fi rii aala yii, wọn yoo gbe ọ.

7. ipalọlọ

Niwọn igba ti awọn ifẹ rẹ ba binu, ati pe o dakẹ nipa rẹ, iwọ kii yoo rii bi o niyelori. Kọ ẹkọ lati sọ ero rẹ, nitori ẹtọ rẹ ni.

8. Aidaniloju

Those who seek to please everyone have such a feature — to ask permission even in situations where it is not required. You think you look polite this way. But if this is repeated too often, you will be considered a person who is not smart enough to make even a simple decision.

9. Aforiji nigbagbogbo

If you start every conversation with «I’m sorry to bother you,» that says a lot about you. You don’t have to apologize for your existence. Timidly starting a conversation, you show the interlocutor that you expect disapproval from him.

Ṣe igbiyanju lati yọ aṣa yii kuro.

10. Timidity

Iwọ kii yoo ṣaṣeyọri ohunkohun ti o ba nifẹẹ didara yii ninu ararẹ. Aye iṣowo kii ṣe arekereke tabi ifarabalẹ, ati pe ti o ba ni itẹlọrun pupọ, o nilo lati ṣiṣẹ pẹlu didara ti ararẹ ki awọn miiran kere si talenti ju iwọ ko le bori rẹ nikẹhin.

Nipa Amoye naa: Sherri Campbell jẹ onimọ-jinlẹ, PhD.