Awọn nkan 9 Emi kii yoo ṣe nigbati mo di iya

Jije obi ti o dara jẹ rọrun - titi iwọ o fi ni awọn ọmọ ti ara rẹ. Titi di igba ti Mo ni mẹta, Mo fun ni imọran ti o dara pupọ.

Mo mọ pato iru iya ti Emi yoo jẹ, kini Emi yoo ṣe ninu ọran kọọkan ati kini kii ṣe. Lẹhinna a bi wọn, o si han pe jije iya ni iṣẹ ti o nira julọ ni agbaye. Iyẹn ni Emi kii yoo ṣe nigbati mo di iya, rara, lailai.

1. Fifun awọn ọmọ wẹwẹ yara ounje ati ijekuje ounje

I was going to cook for them myself — 100% natural food. And I really tried. I rubbed the puree and steamed the vegetables.

Until one day I found myself in a long line at the checkout, with three crying children and next to the Snickers stand. And 50% of the time I gave up. I’m not proud of it — but I’m being honest.

2. Gbe ọmọ lati osinmi kẹhin

Mo ranti igba ewe mi: Mo nigbagbogbo jẹ ẹni ikẹhin ti a gba lati ile-ẹkọ jẹle-osinmi ati awọn ẹgbẹ ere idaraya. O je ki idẹruba. Mo nigbagbogbo ro pe awọn obi mi gbagbe nipa mi. Kò ṣẹlẹ̀ sí mi pé ọwọ́ wọn dí lẹ́nu iṣẹ́, wọ́n sì máa ń gbé mi ní gbàrà tí wọ́n bá ní òmìnira. Mo mọ pe wọn wa ni iṣẹ, ṣugbọn eyi ko tumọ si nkankan. Mo tun bẹru.

Ati pe nibi Mo wa ni agbedemeji ile lati ile-ẹkọ jẹle-osinmi, pẹlu ọmọbirin mi joko ni ijoko ọmọde, ati lojiji ọkọ mi pe: o wa ni pe awa mejeji gbagbe lati gbe ọmọ wa lati ile-iwe. Lati sọ pe Mo pupa lati itiju ni lati sọ ohunkohun.

A gba, lẹhinna dapọ nkan kan, lẹhinna gbagbe.

Ṣugbọn ṣe o mọ ohun ti o ṣẹlẹ nigbamii? O ye. Ati emi na.

3. Fi fun ọmọ ti nkigbe

Ṣaaju ki o to ibi awọn ọmọde, Mo gbagbọ ṣinṣin pe ohun ti o dara julọ ni lati jẹ ki wọn kigbe. Ṣugbọn rọrun ju wi ṣe.

Lehin ti mo ti gbe ọmọ naa sinu ibusun, Mo ti ilẹkun, ati lẹhinna joko labẹ ilẹkun yii mo si sọkun, gbọ bi o ti nkigbe. Lẹ́yìn náà, ọkọ mi dé láti ibi iṣẹ́, ó wọ inú ilé, ó sì sáré lọ wo ohun tó ń ṣẹlẹ̀.

It was easier with the other two children — but I can’t say for sure: either they cried less, or I had more worries.

4. Jẹ ki awọn ọmọde sun ni ibusun mi

Emi kii yoo pin aaye mi pẹlu ọkọ mi pẹlu wọn, nitori eyi jẹ buburu fun awọn ibatan idile. Emi yoo pa alejò kekere ni ori, fun u ni wara gbona lati mu ati mu u lọ si ibusun asọ rẹ lati sun… Ṣugbọn kii ṣe ni igbesi aye gidi.

Ní aago méjì ààbọ̀ òwúrọ̀, mi ò lè gbé apá, ẹsẹ̀, tàbí ẹ̀yà ara mi míì kúrò lórí ibùsùn. Nitorina, ọkan lẹhin miiran, awọn alejo kekere han ninu yara wa, nitori pe wọn ni ala ti o buruju, wọn si joko lẹgbẹẹ wa.

Lẹhinna wọn dagba, itan yii si pari.

5. Ṣe ifunni awọn ounjẹ ọsan ile-iwe awọn ọmọde

I have always hated lunches in the school cafeteria. When I was in elementary school, I ate them every day, and as soon as I grew up a little, I began to prepare my own lunch every morning — just not to eat a school cutlet …

I wanted to be the mom who sends the kids to school in the morning, kisses them and gives everyone a lunch box with a pretty napkin and a note that says «I love you!».

Loni, inu mi dun ti gbogbo awọn mẹtẹẹta ba lọ si ile-iwe pẹlu ounjẹ owurọ ọjọ meji tabi mẹta lati inu marun ti a fun ni aṣẹ, ati nigba miiran aṣọ-ikele wa ninu wọn, ati nigba miiran kii ṣe. Ni eyikeyi idiyele, ko si nkankan ti a kọ sori rẹ.

6. fifun awọn ọmọde pẹlu ileri ẹsan fun iwa rere

It seemed to me that this was far from the aerobatics in parenthood. And, probably, I will burn in hell, because now I do this almost every day. “Has everyone cleaned their rooms? No dessert for those who do not clean up after themselves — and for dessert, by the way, today we have ice cream.

Nigba miiran o rẹ mi pupọ lati wa iwe kan lori selifu lori bi a ṣe le huwa ninu ọran yii ati ka.

7. Gbe ohùn rẹ soke si awọn ọmọde

I grew up in a house where everyone yelled at everyone. And for everything. Because I’m not a fan of screaming. And yet once a day I raise my voice — after all, I have three children — and I hope that this does not traumatize them so much that I will have to go with them to a psychoanalyst later. Although, if necessary, I know that I will pay for all these visits.

8. Binu lori awọn nkan kekere

Mo ti lilọ lati ri nikan ni gbogbo, wo sinu awọn ijinna ati ki o jẹ ọlọgbọn. Fojusi nikan lori ohun ti o ṣe pataki.

O jẹ iyalẹnu bi awọn odi ṣe yarayara nigbati o di obi ati pe o fi silẹ nikan pẹlu awọn ọmọde kekere mẹta.

Awọn iṣẹlẹ kekere ti ọjọ naa, awọn ẹgan alarinrin ni aibikita yipada sinu oke kan ti o rọ lori rẹ. Fun apẹẹrẹ, mimọ ile jẹ iṣẹ ti o dabi ẹnipe o rọrun. Ṣugbọn o ṣokunkun gbogbo agbaye.

Mo gbero bi o ṣe le nu ile naa ni imunadoko diẹ sii ki MO le pari ni wakati meji, ati lẹhin awọn wakati meji ti mimọ Mo nipari pada si ibiti Mo ti bẹrẹ, si yara nla, lati wa nibẹ lori ilẹ… nkan ti ko le rii tẹlẹ. ati awọn ti o ma ṣẹlẹ.

9. Saying «yes» after saying «no»

Mo fẹ ki awọn ọmọde mọ iye ti iṣẹ lile. Wọn mọ pe o to akoko fun iṣowo, ati wakati kan fun igbadun. Àti pé níhìn-ín, mo dúró nínú ilé ìtajà ńlá kan pẹ̀lú kẹ̀kẹ́ kan, mo sì sọ fún àwọn parrots mẹ́tẹ̀ẹ̀ta wọ̀nyí pé: “Ó dáa, ẹ gbé èyí sínú kẹ̀kẹ́ náà, kí ẹ sì tìtorí Ọlọ́run.”

Ni gbogbogbo, Mo ṣe awọn nkan ọgọrun ti Mo bura. Eyi ti Emi kii yoo ṣe nigbati mo di iya. Mo jẹ ki wọn ye. Lati wa ni ilera.

Maṣe lu ararẹ fun awọn yiyan ti o ni lati ṣe nigbakan lati jẹ ki idile rẹ tẹsiwaju siwaju. Ọkọ oju omi wa leefofo loju omi, duro tunu, awọn ọrẹ.

Nipa Onkọwe: Meredith Masoni jẹ iya ti n ṣiṣẹ ti mẹta ati awọn bulọọgi nipa awọn otitọ ti iya lai ṣe ọṣọ.