Hello dear readers! The conformal personality type seeks to please others, therefore it ignores its own desires and feelings, adjusting to others.
And today we invite you to find out in more detail what he is, that is, what opportunities and limitations he has, as well as how to build relationships with him so that they turn out to be healthy and harmonious.
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This type of character accentuation is also called amorphous, due to the lack of ambition, aggressiveness and determination. Such a person seems to go with the flow, thereby giving power for his life, and sometimes his loved ones to society.
He does not make choices that will improve the quality of this very life, satisfaction with it. He is conservative, if only because he tries not to stand out. And, by conforming to the templates, there is less risk of being criticized or rejected, forgotten.
Often, a conforming person is considered limited, with low intelligence. In fact, this is not so, she is able to study well, achieve success in her career and grasp new information on the fly. He simply hides his talents and abilities, does not believe that he can be right.
Thinking is not critical. That is, she believes other people, not even allowing the thought that someone can deceive intentionally. It’s about her environment.
If a person is a stranger, then she will be wary of him. But only for some reason he will become closer to her, as unconditional trust in his every word will be connected.
Tries to match the environment to which it belongs. Therefore, in principle, how her life will be arranged depends on which company she got into.
As already mentioned, this psychotype does not like to stand out, but besides this, he also does not like people who go beyond generally accepted standards and boundaries.
For example, he will laugh at the new fashion trend, perhaps the loudest. But only if his acquaintances start buying things with an unusual cut, he will also run to the shops in search of the necessary things to be sure to match the rest.
In difficult life moments, he relies on sayings, various kinds of maxims. Folk wisdom helps him to receive consolation, as well as the understanding that not only he found himself in such circumstances, but almost everyone fails sooner or later.
It is believed that this accentuation occurs more often among men than among women, despite the fact that attempts to please are usually characteristic of the beautiful half of humanity.
Detstvo
At school, a child of a conformal type of character, according to Lichko, mostly studies averagely, although in fact he can do better.
For example, even if he is the only one in the class who knows the correct answer to the teacher’s question, he will not raise his hand. Because he believes that since others do not understand the essence of this topic, he will certainly be mistaken.
And in this case, all attention will be paid to him, and it is not known how classmates will react to his attempt to seem smart. Suddenly they do not want to communicate with him after that, considering him an upstart. And this is the worst thing for him.
The reasons for such behavior lie not only in belonging to a certain type of temperament, character. The kid, wanting to receive the love of parents, their recognition, is often obliged to obey their rules, and so often that this becomes a way of life.
A child from an early age understands that the world needs to correspond, otherwise there is a high probability of death due to rejection.
For example, a mother, if the child does not obey, says that she does not love him and ignores all attempts to attract attention until he begins to behave the way she wants.
And if she behaves like this with him every time, then it is quite natural that he gets used to suppressing his desires and feelings, adjusting to her requirements.
It also leaves a significant imprint on the formation of conformity and overprotection. If adults do not give the child the opportunity to cope with difficulties, fulfilling the set developmental tasks for his age, then he will not gain experience, and, accordingly, the skills of independence.
Then he will try to stay away and be like others, copying their behavior, because he will not have confidence in himself and his knowledge, talents and features.
Teenage years
If a teenager is among those who are fond of reading, studying computers, and so on, then, naturally, he will repeat after them. His main goal will be self-development, because this is what worries his friends.
But it is worth being in the company of peers who smoke, drink and trade in theft — accordingly, even believing that this is not right and immoral, it will become addicted to nicotine and other substances.
Committing offenses and being registered with the district police officer, he will experience guilt and remorse, but he will not change anything in his behavior until the environment in which he is located somehow changes.
Suppose, having moved to another city and meeting people who pursue completely different goals in life, he will try to adapt to them, forgetting about the deviant style of behavior.
And sometimes the opposite happens, a child who shows great promise, for example, in sports, begins to communicate with those who are very far from him and prefer to get adrenaline and generally vivid emotions using drugs.
Then he ceases to follow a diet, a daily routine, and later completely abandons training, forgetting about manners and rules of conduct, spending all his time in various dens with dubious personalities.
They can also commit violence against helpless people or animals, simply because the group they are in incites them to abuse their chosen victims.
They will not dare to refuse the role of a tyrant and an aggressor, because the risk of being outside your team is more frightening than the consequences of violent actions.
The future profession is chosen, focusing on where most friends are going to do. And if he likes to study foreign languages, but the rest go to study for lawyers, then, without hesitation, they will apply to the university they want. And they will dream of being in the same group, so that they can spend whole days together.
If parents, for certain reasons, «tear» children out of their familiar environment, with the same move, change of school, then teenagers may well run away from home. Thus arranging a rebellion, not wanting to go through the process of adaptation again.
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The psychology of this type is such that, trying not to stand out, he adapts to his usual environment. Therefore, he does not like to change his place of residence, and, moreover, work. After all, this means that you have to learn to behave in a new way.
And since the adaptation is not entirely smooth and easy, he usually works in the same place for a long time. Even if it doesn’t suit him.
For beginners, as already mentioned, it is wary. So outsiders usually get the full reward, being openly hostile and even criticized. If a part of the team does not accept a new colleague into its ranks, then in this case one can only sympathize with him, because he will receive from a conforming employee for everyone at once.
He is a good worker, executive and responsible. He’s ready for anything, as long as he’s not rejected. But in an area where initiative and activity are required, he fails.
He should not be appointed to leadership positions. Because, trying to please his subordinates, he will sacrifice not only his own interests, but also the goals of the enterprise, dooming him to bankruptcy.
Unable to cope with the stress at the time of deadlines and the need to make decisions on their own, they run the risk of getting a neurosis, an emotional breakdown, and even falling into depression.
Ipari
Psychologist Solomon Asch decided to conduct an experiment back in 1951, exploring how people are able to defend their point of view. Despite the fact that all the other members reject it. You can learn more about how it took place and what conclusions the scientists made by clicking here.
Finally, we recommend that you familiarize yourself with each existing type of character accentuation, both according to Lichko and Leonhard. This will help you better understand yourself and the people you interact with.
For example, you will learn the most characteristic signs of the behavior of a hysteroid personality from this article.
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