Awọn akoonu
Bawo ni lati ṣe iranlọwọ fun awọn ọmọde lati gbagbọ ninu ara wọn ati yago fun awọn ikuna ni ẹkọ? Lákọ̀ọ́kọ́, bá wọn sọ̀rọ̀ gẹ́gẹ́ bí dọ́gba, kí o sì rí wọn gẹ́gẹ́ bí ẹni tí ó kún fún ẹ̀kúnrẹ́rẹ́. Ati ṣe pataki julọ, ṣe atilẹyin awọn ọmọde ni eyikeyi ipo. Eyi ni ọna kan ṣoṣo lati gbin igbẹkẹle ati iyi ara ẹni ni ilera ninu wọn, amoye wa gbagbọ.
Wo eniyan
Use a subjective approach: do not teach the child what he needs, but perceive him as a complete person. The way to build self-confidence in a small interlocutor is to communicate with him on an equal footing, listen to how he expresses feelings and what he says.
support
Be on the side of the child, even when he is wrong. To support does not mean to approve of his behavior, support is to say that there are situations in which you can help him. Together try to understand what the child wanted to say with his behavior, even if he was dragging a cat by the tail. Offer solutions to the problem and help in correcting the situation.
Ṣakoso ara rẹ
Awọn gbolohun «ọmọ mu mi» jẹ ko otitọ. 99% awọn obi ṣakoso awọn ẹdun nikan pẹlu ọga, ṣugbọn eto yii kuna pẹlu awọn ọmọde. Kí nìdí? Awọn ọmọde ko le "lu pada", ati nitori naa o le ni diẹ sii pẹlu wọn ju ni ibaraẹnisọrọ pẹlu olori. Ṣùgbọ́n ọ̀rọ̀ kan tí a sọ nínú ọkàn-àyà pàápàá lè nípa lórí iyì ara ẹni tí ọmọdé ní lọ́kàn.
Ifa igbohunsafefe
Ti awọn obi ba ṣetan nigbagbogbo lati yani ejika si ara wọn, lẹhinna ọmọ naa ni ẹtọ lati nireti pe wọn yoo ṣe atilẹyin fun u paapaa. Ti o ba kọ ọmọ kan pe ko si ibi kan lati duro fun atilẹyin, lẹhinna o yoo ṣee ṣe nikan lati ṣọfọ pe ko yipada si ọ. Sọ fún un pé: “Ó ṣe pàtàkì gan-an fún mi láti mọ ohun tó ń ṣẹlẹ̀ sí ẹ, bí bẹ́ẹ̀ kọ́, mi ò ní lè tì ẹ́ lẹ́yìn.” Ati lẹhin naa yoo mọ pe yoo ṣe iranlọwọ ni eyikeyi ọran.
Ṣe afihan ailera rẹ
We all have periods of ups and downs. And we are all able to choose whether to move on or decide that this is not the case for me. Letting your child support you when things don’t work out is a wonderful experience for both.
Maṣe yara si awọn ipari
Do you see how your child hit another kid on the playground, and it seems to you that the latter suffered undeservedly? Don’t be quick to blame. Imagine adults in their place. What will you do if your partner hits another? Try to figure out the reasons.
And even if he is really wrong, then most likely you will still be on his side.
However, such a proposal can be confusing, since it seems that it is easier with adults than with children. That we have answers to all questions, and children are small, meaningless creatures that we must manage. But it is not.
Ma ṣe ẹdinwo
Approving or disapproving the actions of others — including children, giving them an assessment and advising on how best to act, we act as demigods, and even gods. Which ultimately can lead to inner lack of freedom and disbelief in the child’s own strength.
Children learn much faster than adults. And in order to learn the formula “whatever I do, I do it wrong”, you need very little effort. And to “I still can’t do anything” is within easy reach of her. A negative assessment of work or what is dear to you always leads to a decrease in self-esteem. It’s the same with children.
Maṣe dinku
“Paarọ, awọn oludari, awọn ita, awọn apanilaya…” - maṣe gbe awọn aami kọkọ si awọn ọmọde. Ati ki o ma ṣe ṣe iyatọ si awọn ẹlomiran nipasẹ ọjọ ori («Iwọ tun jẹ kekere»). Awọn ọmọde, gẹgẹbi awọn agbalagba, yatọ. Igbẹkẹle ara ẹni ti ọmọ ko ni bibi aibikita. Àwọn ọmọ lè máa hùwà ìkà sí ẹlòmíràn kìkì nígbà tí wọ́n bá ń hùwà ìkà sí wọn. Ati pe ki ọmọde ba le tun nkan ṣe, o gbọdọ kọkọ kọ ẹkọ ni ibikan. Ati pe ti ọmọde ba bẹrẹ si tẹ ẹlomiiran, o tumọ si pe ẹnikan ti n tẹ ẹ mọlẹ.