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When evaluating our resources, we often forget about talents and abilities — especially about those that we don’t really know anything about. We don’t know, because we don’t see ourselves from the outside or we succumb to the suggestion of our inner critic. Meanwhile, you can open and develop them with the help of one simple exercise.

When asked what personal resources you have, what do you say? Do you list material goods — cars, apartments, amounts on accounts? Tell us about your wonderful job or excellent health? Or maybe about your good friends and beloved relatives? Or start listing your positive qualities and skills? Are you sure you know about all of them, let alone use all of them?

Talents and abilities turned out to be almost the only resource that helped me overcome the midlife crisis. They are very important, especially in financially difficult times, when we no longer have anything to rely on. Therefore, I suggest doing an exercise that will help you collect your talents in a chest like treasures. In the future, if the need arises, you can get any of them and use them to your advantage.

Exercise «Chest of Talents»

After completing this exercise, you will be able to redefine your identity, your «I», based not only on your own ideas, but also on the opinions, observations and projections of the people around you.

Make a list of your talents and abilities

The list should be divided into two parts: in one, the talents that you use, in the second, all the rest.

For example, I use oratory, literary and artistic talents, but almost never use my pedagogical and organizational skills. Why? First, until recently, I did not notice that I had them. Secondly, my inner critic prevents me from recognizing myself as a good organizer. It forbids me to dominate and be powerful, therefore, it also does not allow me to organize anything, perhaps by commanding and managing people.

After I saw my abilities through the exercise, I worked with my inner critic and eventually I was able to appropriate them for myself.

Think of questions about yourself

I suggest the following options:

  1. If you were asked who I am, what would you say?
  2. What do you see as my strengths?
  3. What strengths am I not using? How could she?
  4. Where do you see my zone of proximal development?
  5. What are my weaknesses?
  6. In what situation would you turn to me for help? Why?
  7. What is my uniqueness?

You can come up with something of your own. The main thing is to share this list with at least three friends. But the more people answer the questions, the better:

  • Some of the respondents should know you for more than 10-15 years — they will help to collect those talents that you showed in your youth, and then, perhaps, you forgot;
  • Part — from a year to 10 years. They will reveal the abilities that you now have, but are hardly used.
  • And some are less than a year old. New acquaintances have an idea about you only from their projections, but they can notice talents that have manifested themselves not so long ago and are not visible to the “blurred” eye.

Analyze the received information

Gather all the comments in an Excel spreadsheet and study them carefully. I am sure that the opinion of third parties will significantly change your idea of ​​yourself, and for the better.

After analyzing other people’s answers, do not forget to prepare your own. You can not answer all the questions you mentioned, but only the most important ones: about unused talents and the zone of proximal development. I had many valuable insights. For example, about the fact that I do not use my acting skills or the ability to achieve goals. Or about my zones of proximal development — the ability to defend your boundaries and inner peace.

Put your talent into practice

Theory without practice makes no sense, so try to get one of the talents you discovered from the chest this week to put it into practice. And feel the pleasure of new opportunities.

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